When I was thinking about this year, it definitely sparked a lot of different emotions for me. Mostly good ones, with a sprinkle of the not-so-good ones.
When looking back on a year, it can be easy to only notice the glaring mistakes we made, or things that we wanted to accomplish… but didn’t. This year I took note of my shortcomings, but tried to focus on the things I did accomplish. To name a few:
- Graduated with my B.A. in International Relations and French
- Got my first “real” job
- Moved out of my parents house
- Moved in with my significant other
- Adopted a kitten
- Learned more about myself and who I want to be
When I write that list, I feel proud of myself for getting through all the squabbles with friends, boy issues, stressful nights of study, and time spent outlining my budget for the week.
Sometimes when we live day-to-day, we are hypersensitive to our changes from yesterday in comparison to today. I fall victim to this frequently. Therefore, I encourage all of you to try to see your year as the “bigger picture,” rather than a series of weeks. I also encourage you to focus more on your own personal growth than the little scars that may be left behind. Maybe you went through a rough breakup this year. Instead of letting 2017 be defined as “the year I was in a bad relationship and then went through a breakup,” try to think of the ways you became stronger or surprised yourself. And when you gather all these experiences up together, you may be able to pinpoint who you want to be in 2018.
Which brings me to my personal goals for 2018. I don’t really like the term “Resolution” because to me, it implies that overnight everything will change. It also places an unnecessary amount of pressure on our little human selves. When we expect only the best from ourselves all the time, we set ourselves up for almost certain failure, Part of being human is making mistakes, because these mistakes allow us to play to our own strengths and become better, and kinder to ourselves. SO! I have made a list of ways I want to be better, and how I want to accomplish them.
1. Find consistency in my asana practice.
This is probably my #1 goal for 2018. Although I practice yoga often (whether it’s meditation, reading, breathing, or general day-in day-out practice of patience and non-attachment), I generally fail to do my asana practice consistently. I’ll practice once in two weeks, and then the next week will practice four times in one week. I don’t want to set goal for myself that isn’t realistic or sustainable, like “Oh, I’m gonna go to three yoga classes per week and do a home practice twice a week!” Instead, I’ll tell myself that I’ll get on my mat every Saturday– no matter if it’s at home or in a studio. From there, I can grow my practice and hop on my mat more.
Another part of this goal is that I’m going to start teaching again in 2018. I took a break when I graduated to adjust to “real life,” but now that I have I am ready to start teaching again.
So for me, if I practice consistently and teach once or twice a week, I will be more than pleased with myself.
2. Be more comfortable with my bare skin.
This one is one that I have been working on already by making a conscious effort to take better care of my skin and wear less makeup. A year ago, I would’ve gotten anxious just thinking about not wearing makeup to work. For the past month, I’ve skipped my makeup at least once a week every week. And I intend to cut down on the makeup even more. When I go to work, I’m sitting at my desk all day getting air blasted on me by the vent right above my desk. Therefore, my skin endures a lot at work. Blocking my pores with makeup certainly does not help.
In 2018, I think I’m gonna skip makeup on a daily basis because:
- I get to sleep for 20 more minutes
- My skin will be able to breathe and heal
- It’ll feel special when I do wear makeup
I’m nervous about this one because I have been so wedded to my full face of makeup for so long, but I think in the long run this will be great for me (and my pores!).
3. Eat more fruits and veggies, and less dairy and meat.
I find that like my asana practice, my diet is pretty inconsistent. I was a vegetarian for a large part of 2017, but since moving in with Sam have all but abandoned my vegetarianism. I would self-identify as “an aspiring vegetarian.” However, for me vegetarianism is not something that I can just jump into, so my goal for 2017 is to eat less meat (particularly red meat– although I really only have this 2-3 times a month).
I also would like to cut down on the amount of dairy in my diet. I do like to have cheese on my salads, and a bowl of macaroni and cheese is irreplaceable so my goal is not to eradicate cheese from my diet, but just to be more mindful of the dairy I’m having. For example, this means having almond milk with my cereal instead of regular milk.
And finally, I need to eat more fruits and veggies. I sometimes go a few days without fruits and veggies, and then I’ll crave them and have a string of really nutritious meals. I think as far as fruits and veggies go, a good starting point is to make sure I get them every day, no matter what.
4. Become more financially stable.
This one is probably the most important of all my goals because it directly relate to my safety. While I am lucky to be employed and am not actively struggling financially, I would like to become more mindful of my spending (aka stop spending so much money all the time Kira ok), and make a solid effort to save more of my paychecks.
I do have student loans that I need to pay, so it is simply not feasible for me to save a ton of money. However, I want to focus more on larger student loan payments, and smaller shopping trips at Sephora.
This is not to say that I won’t spend any money, but I think I’ll make a budget every month and only buy things I’ve been eyeing up for a while. I’m officially cutting myself off from impulse buys!
I know all of these goals are very vague, but my main goal is mostly to just keep growing. These goals may change a little throughout the year, but I hope that at the end of the year I can look back at this post and see my own improvements over the course of the year.
I hope you all have had a wonderful holiday season and have a wonderful New Year. Cheers to a year of self-love and growth in 2018!